Here is some relationship advice from the year 1886:

• Let your love be stronger than your hate or anger.

• Learn the wisdom of compromise, for it is better to bend a little than to break.

• Believe the best rather than the worst.

• People have a way of living up or down to your opinion of them.

• Remember that true friendship is the basis for any lasting relationship. The person you choose to marry is deserving of the courtesies & kindnesses you bestow on your friends.

• Please hand this down to your children and your children's children: The more things change the more they are the same.

To say that much has changed in the 119 years since this was first written is a bit of an understatement.

Something as commonplace as the technology that allows the publication of this newsletter or website would have been the subject of far fetched science fiction in 1886.

Yet some things do not change, like the basic emotional needs of men and women. Nor does what I call the couple-attitudes and couple-skills necessary for a vibrant long term relationship.

I bet this will still be true another 119 years from now in the year 2124.

Perhaps by then well have the technology that will allow guys to just know because you love me...but thats a subject for another day!

Jeff Herring

Jeff is a marriage and family therapist, singles and relationship coach, mentor coach, speaker, syndicated relationship columnist and author.

Jeff has a full time private practice in Tallahassee in which he specializes in couples, teen and parent counseling. He also is a relationship coach specializing in working with couples and singles. Some of his professional activities include:

==> Internationally syndicated relationship columnist through Knight-Ridder/Tribune Media Services, with a weekly readership of over 10 million worldwide

==> Sought after speaker for organizations, associations, churches, and corporations

==>Twice weekly appearances on The Steve and Sara Show on Magic 107.1

==> Author of "Keep the Changes: 52 Tools for Successful Living" a collection of his best columns, as well as several e-books including "How to Create a Passionate and Loving Relationship.........Forever," "How to Beat the BOZOs: Dealing with difficult people without becoming one," and "Tame Your Teen: THE survival guide for parenting your teenager.

==> Founder and CEO of TheArticleGuy.com

==> Founder and CEO of SecretsofGreatRelationships.com

==> Founder and CEO of ParentingYourTeeanger.com

==> Founder and CEO of ToolsforSuccessfulLiving.com

==> President of BuildingYourIdealPractice.com

==> President of ConsciousDatingTallahassee.com