If you have a very low self esteem or a lack of self-confidence you may be seeking help to gain extra confidence.

I was somebody who had a severe confidence crisis from the ages of four until the age of around twenty two.

At the age of twenty two I started on a mission of self improvement and to try to make myself increase happiness levels in my own life.

I started reading various books and articles on increasing confidence and gaining self esteem.

In one of the books, it had a chapter on what was named, "You have to start to like yourself".

It started by saying that there are probably some things in your life and about your person that you are not happy with. Some of these you are unable to change, therefore however hard it might be, you have to accept them, and even try to start to like them. Other things about your life or your person which you are not happy with you are able to change, therefore however hard it might be you have to work towards changing them.

The things I was not happy with was: My weight, this can be changed. Being overweight was mainly my fault, my diet and lack of exercise.

I had a bald patch on my head, this is something which I believed could not be changed, therefore I had to accept it.

I am quite short for a male, this is something which I am unable to change.

I had a severe stutter, this was something which after a lot of hard work I managed to overcome.

Stephen Hill

Steve Hill

Stephen Hill runs The How To Stop Stammering Centre In England. He offers stuttering therapy courses to help people who stutter to achieve fluency. Stuttering is also known in some countries as stammering.