"Bigger, Better, Faster, More" was the title of an album which the Four Non-Blondes produced in the 90's. I was struck how this title seemed to represent much of our modern day culture. I have wondered if we could find "better" via smaller, slower, and less...come join me for a couple of minutes and see what you think.

Part of what I have witnessed is this tremendous attempt to fulfill one's life with extrinsic, often materially-based, dynamics. Instead of a purpose-driven life, some people start to chase the insatiable energy of bigger, better, faster, more. This chase, from what I have seen, is much like trying to catch a jack-rabbit: The more invested you are in the chase, the more tired out you get and also the further you get off your true life-path.

We do not have to look very far to see those athletes and media-stars who have "made it" in their bigger, better, faster, more world, and who also have taken tremendous falls. All the bigger, better, faster, and more didn't save them from their self-destructive choices.

Try this on for a bottom-line: True happiness and true fulfillment come from within. The dynamics of knowing who we really are, why we are here, where we are going, and what we will leave as a legacy will bring us a complete life and inner peace. Maybe not bigger, maybe not faster, maybe not more, but rather, "better" through our own simple and powerfully personal truth.

So here is an invitation for you:

Take a look at what you fear the most and answer these questions:

• Have you become attached to this, or these, in a way that has defined your personhood?

• Are you chasing something that only wears you down and tires you out?

• Do you find yourself to be unhappy regardless of how much bigger, better, faster, or more that you do and have?

If you answered yes to any of these questions, I invite you to do an inventory of your life. Spend some time discerning your values and your priorities. Discover your life purpose and your life-path.

It has been written: "Bigger, Better, Faster, More" was the title of an album which the Four Non-Blondes produced in the 90's. I was struck how this title seemed to represent much of our modern day culture. I have wondered if we could find "better" via smaller, slower, and less...come join me for a couple of minutes and see what you think.

Part of what I have witnessed is this tremendous attempt to fulfill one's life with extrinsic, often materially-based, dynamics. Instead of a purpose-driven life, some people start to chase the insatiable energy of bigger, better, faster, more. This chase, from what I have seen, is much like trying to catch a jack-rabbit: The more invested you are in the chase, the more tired out you get and also the further you get off your true life-path.

We do not have to look very far to see those athletes and media-stars who have "made it" in their bigger, better, faster, more world, and who also have taken tremendous falls. All the bigger, better, faster, and more didn't save them from their self-destructive choices.

Try this on for a bottom-line: True happiness and true fulfillment come from within. The dynamics of knowing who we really are, why we are here, where we are going, and what we will leave as a legacy will bring us a complete life and inner peace. Maybe not bigger, maybe not faster, maybe not more, but rather, "better" through our own simple and powerfully personal truth.

So here is an invitation for you:

Take a look at what you fear the most and answer these questions:

Have you become attached to this, or these, in a way that has defined your personhood?

Are you chasing something that only wears you down and tires you out?

Do you find yourself to be unhappy regardless of how much bigger, better, faster, or more that you do and have? If you answered yes to any of these questions, I invite you to do an inventory of your life. Spend some time discerning your values and your priorities. Discover your life purpose and your life-path.

It has been written:
Work like you don't need the money.
Sing like no one is listening.
Dance like no one is watching.
And love like you have never been hurt.

Find "the most important thing" in your life because the most important thing is to make the most important thing the most important thing.

Ken Donaldson

Ken Donaldson, the REALationship Coach, has been based in Tampa Bay, Florida offering counseling, coaching, and educational programs since 1987. He is a licensed mental health counselor; board certified as an addictions professional and clinical hypnotherapist; and certified as a master relationship coach. Ken is a graduate of the University of South Florida, the Institute for Life Coach Training and the Relationship Coaching Institute. He has been exclusively in private practice since 1993.

Ken is the author of the new breakthrough life and relationship success book Marry YourSelf First! Saying “I Do” to a Life of Passion, Power and Purpose. The material in this book is a result of Donaldson’s 15+ years of clinical counseling and coaching with thousands of individuals and couples. In this book, he reveals what he has discovered as the 20 core Principles of Passion, Power and Purpose. When these principles are applied to your life you can overcome self-limiting patterns and create abundant happiness, fulfillment and success in your life and relationships.

Donaldson’s primary message from this book is to “Master Your Life and Your Relationships!” Purchasers of this book are eligible for free coaching and educational programs to support and promote optimal growth and success.

Ken founded the REALationship Coaching programs empower people to have more successful lives, businesses and relationships by building a powerful relationship with themselves first.

Included are the monthly Saturday Series workshops and the REAL Talk Forums. These programs are for couples and individuals alike, and help the participants live the most passionate and balanced lives possible.

He also facilitates the Marry YourSelf First program that assists singles to have more successful relationships and more satisfying lives. The graduates of this program leave with a clear vision of who they are, what they want, and how to get it.

In addition, he offers the Partners for Life programs for both pre-committed and committed couples that provide the tools and resources to help couples create relationships that are both lasting and fulfilling. Couples report that they have deeper intimacy and more fun as a result of utilizing the tools from these programs.

Ken also offers education and training programs for businesses and community organizations on a variety of personal growth and business improvement topics.