Making the decision to move a loved one to a nursing home facility is among the most difficult decisions we may ever face. If you follow the suggestions listed your chance of finding a quality placement will be increased.

1) DO YOUR HOMEWORK

Every nursing home is inspected by a state agency. The inspection is very intense and comprehensive. Everything from the dietary needs of the residence to the medical care of residents is examined. The state survey MUST be available to the public. It is also available online in many states. Regardless how beautiful the facility may be do not place a loved one until you have studied their state survey findings.

2) USE YOUR NOSE

Do not accept bad odors as being inescapable in a nursing home setting. If you detect the smell of urine or an overall impression of unsanitary conditions walk back out of the door. That is not tolerable.

3) VISIT THE NURSING HOME DURING MEAL TIME

When making inquiries about a nursing home you will most likely be directed to a marketing spokesperson. They will ask you to meet with them and take a tour of the facility. I would suggest you also visit during a meal time. Observe the food which is being served. Scrutinize the care with which residents are being served. Are those who require assistance being attended to with respect or do the employees appear rushed or annoyed by those with special needs?

4) ASK THE RESIDENTS IF THEY LIKE LIVING THERE

Not every resident will have the ability to carry on a conversation with you often times those who enjoy social interaction will be more than willing to tell you about life in the facility. If you get the impression that they feel safe and contented and the staff is caring then it may be a good match for your loved one.

5) DONT BE FOOLED BY THE BELLS AND WHISTLES

The Nursing home you select should have a staff that will nurture your loved one, not simply warehouse them. It is far more important to find a homey residence than a facility with big screen televisions and beautifully wallpapered dining rooms. Even the most expensively decorated facility can have serious deficiencies in their caring abilities.

Deborah Uetz

Deborah Uetz B.S. Education, Q.M.R.P, Suicide Support Monitor, Author of INTO THE MIST,WHEN SOMEONE YOU LOVE HAS ALZHEIMER'S DISEASE, Frequent Radio Guest, e-zine expert